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Ready for Some Tough Love?

September 26, 2011

Have you ever been in the situation where you KNOW that something in your life needs to change and yet you find yourself strangely reluctant to do anything about it? If so, you certainly aren’t alone – I know from personal experience the great lengths many of us go to in order to preserve the very situation that we want to get out of! This usually involves a fair bit of moaning or blaming or making excuses, or we may try and mask our feelings with food and alcohol, when really we just want someone to give us a great big hug and tell us that everything will be alright. That might well be what we WANT…. but is it actually what we NEED?

I think you know the answer to that already, don’t you? Sometimes, what we need is a big dose of tough love to go with the great big hug! It’s a strategy most parents are familiar with and use to help our children learn indispensible life lessons or to help them face up to some unpalatable truths. It may not be easy but we do it knowing we’re being ‘cruel to be kind’ and that we have their very best interests at heart and knowing it comes from a place of love.

Well, I’d like to ask you to think about providing the same supportive service to yourself and perhaps allow me to get the ‘tough love’ ball rolling for you. And as you read, remember, this comes from a place of love.

The person who needs to make and take no excuses is… YOU.
Money, circumstances and other people may be factors, but could it be that the biggest obstacle stopping you getting where you want to be is…. YOU?
Change doesn’t happen without taking action and the only person who can do that is …..YOU.
The responsibility to make the most of this one precious life rests solely with… YOU.

I know, I know… it seems harsh when written like that, but getting tough with yourself is actually a loving gesture if it helps you to let go of the excuses and stops you hanging on to the stories you tell yourself that no longer serve you.

Consider the changes you’ve been ‘thinking about’. Take an honest look, ask some honest questions and explore the link between your current situation and your current actions. Take responsibility. Give yourself some tough love – or find someone who will.

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